While writing an intervention letter, one must keep a few things clear in mind and follow them in order to avoid troubles regarding their treatment. Certain steps need to be followed so that they eventually give up the reluctance. History tells us that addiction has been a problem for man since the very beginning. In a world apparently full of miseries, sadness, and quite dull, where Adam was sent to be punished, one can’t really expect to have a peaceful and relaxed mind throughout their life.
Humans always feel the need to escape the harsh truth of reality at some points in their life. In such cases, different people go for different options available to them. Intoxication fascinates many. Thus they try to shut the tensions away by sticking on to drugs.
Having your loved ones slipped into the mud of drug addiction makes one’s heartache. Everybody wants to help them overcome it, but then since drug addicts usually loathe being shown a mirror to watch themselves in, one can’t really speak their feelings out loud to them.
For that matter, the intervention letter comes quite handy. Pouring out your feelings, insecurities, and concerns to the addicts through ink on a paper can make it pretty easier.
Table of Contents
- 1. Show Empathy
- 2. Use Loving And Compassionate Language
- 3. Write From the Depth of Your Heart
- 4. Show Your Gratitude
- 5. Point Out To Them How Addiction Caused You Pain
- 6. Relate Their Situation To Yourself
- 7. Show That You Have Learned Addiction Is A Medical Problem
- 8. Repeat Your Concerns
- 9. Make Them Realize How Worse Things Get For Everyone, Including Themselves
- 10. Avoid Going Too Emotional
- 11. Specify How Addiction Takes Control Over His Entire Life
- 12. Offer Them Treatment
- 13. Speak Up What Consequences Are Likely To Follow If They Refused To Get Treatment
- 14. Letter Must Be Firmly Scripted
1. Show Empathy
Before you sit down to write the letter, try to understand what the person in question must be going through with all the drugs controlling their emotions, psyche, their entire body. Where people are always mad at drug addicts, I am sure, if we just tried to put ourselves in their shoes, we may understand them a little.
2. Use Loving And Compassionate Language
In the letter, you must not sound angry, mad, or harsh. Keep your tone relaxed and use a language that displays love and compassion towards the person. Drug addicts are usually turned cold shoulder in society, but addressing them affectionately will make them more attracted, and thus, they will listen to you. Keeping a positive tone throughout the letter is the key point to get to them.
3. Write From the Depth of Your Heart
Since you are at an important place in a person’s life, your words should come straight from your heart. Begin your letter with an affectionate statement showing them how much concerned you are. For example,
“You must know that I love you very dearly. We have grown up as friends, sisters, with you being like a mother to me. We have always been too close to each other, but lately, I feel like things are changing. I know we haven’t had time to sit together, sip some coffee, recall the happy and sad memories, and my favorite, gossip about the neighbors and cousins, haha! I miss you so much!”
4. Show Your Gratitude
Speaking of your past experiences with the person, appreciate them for the times when they have been helpful to you. Gratitude lies next to the last thing a drug addict expects coming from someone. They expect a negative attitude, but in your letter, you must surprise them with your appreciation and gratitude. You can make up something like:
“Ah, such great memories do we share, my lovely sister. I had lost the count of times you have been right by my side, sometimes sobbing while you put me to sleep in those chaotic times, drenching the sadness out of me or the times when you were there like a strict mother to point out to me my biggest mistakes and help me get my broken pieces together. All those little things we did together, for fun, I remember everything to the day just as it was! Remember how you helped me learn riding a bicycle? And that one-day road-trip you took me to? Each time I think of you, I can’t stop thinking of how very much blessed I am, along with it.”
5. Point Out To Them How Addiction Caused You Pain
Though you must avoid negative language, yet you need to remind them of times where you’d suffered because of their addiction. It might rip the blind curtain off their eyes and let them see how much pain they cause to their loved ones. Be specific with examples but do not say it harshly. You can refer to your first-hand experience with them from the past. Also, relate it to your present situation too.
“Lately, though, we haven’t been talking much as you are almost always under the effect of whatever drugs you have been taking. You may not have noticed, but it kills me to watch you behave so differently as if you are a completely different person. The other day you said so many harsh things to me that I am sure you’d never said had you been yourself. But please know what I feel is that you would never have said if you’d never thought of it. Nothing just comes out from your mouth without reason, it must have been there once, so it all came out. I was hurt to a point I can’t tell.
6. Relate Their Situation To Yourself
Write to them how their situation specifically changes your life. It will make them realize their worth in your life.
“Watching you like that makes me feel like I have lost my best friend. Thus I am slowly losing control over things you were once there to help me with. You know that I rely upon you when it comes to anger. It has always been you who helped me calm down, but now, with you being completely devoted to the drugs, I have no choice but to blame you for what mess I have been creating.”
7. Show That You Have Learned Addiction Is A Medical Problem
Try telling them that you have understood the fact that addiction is rather a medical issue. The person is likely to feel less guilty about it if you helped him understand that he does not alone shoulder the blame for it. Add a statement to your letter that emphasizes chemical dependency and how it changes a person by taking total control over their brain. Write about how the drugs are responsible for changing their personality so much that they have been causing you trouble.
8. Repeat Your Concerns
Follow it by showing your love and concerns again. Since they are always quite reluctant and are on their guard to pick up a slight bit of reason to put you off and avoid hearing the treatment offer, you must repeatedly show your love and concerns.
9. Make Them Realize How Worse Things Get For Everyone, Including Themselves
Make them understand that drug addiction causes mental and physical distress as well as humiliation and disgrace. The family system is shattered, the future is at stake, the career is ruined, and at the same time, they cause people around them highly emotional pain. Drugs often hype up the emotions, so they are likely to even weep, given they’re confronted in a smart way.
10. Avoid Going Too Emotional
Do not get your emotions run too high; rather, stay calm.
11. Specify How Addiction Takes Control Over His Entire Life
Specify to them how brain cells of the addict begin to change, which affects his behavior; he becomes a victim of inappropriate conditions and especially loses the ability to make decisions. Now nobody wants to be subjected to decisions taken for them. Help them realize how drugs, like a total outsider, take over his entire life, leaving him all vulnerable.
12. Offer Them Treatment
Hit them with the offer to help them get treated by using affectionate language.
13. Speak Up What Consequences Are Likely To Follow If They Refused To Get Treatment
Write down what the person in question may get at the end if they didn’t agree to get proper treatment. Make them learn they will have to face the music. But again, do not push them too far. Make it simple and tell it will affect you as well. For example, you can write,
“The choice is always your to make. Just know that I will never stop loving you, no matter what. But I can’t just watch you slowly pushing yourself to death from afar and do nothing about it.”
Setting up certain boundaries for them where they could not enter, given that they refused to go to a Rehab Centre, can prove to be very important in pushing them to accept your offer.
14. Letter Must Be Firmly Scripted
The letter should be scripted firmly, avoiding emotional hype-ups as it may do more harm than good.
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